Celeste Smucker Nellysford, VA, United States
Chapter 8 Decision
I always find this chapter intriguing and a bit mysterious.
Why does Hill tell us that lack of decision is a top cause of
Decision making has always been challenging for me....a way
will seem clear until I hear something or read something different
and then I am back considering, wondering if my decision was
the right one. Often this means I don't take meaningful action and
In my role as a mentor I see this from a different perspective.
Some people seem excited and well intended, but never take
action. Every week I hear things like "OK this week I'm really
going for it...I finally got finished with my taxes or, the relatives
finally went home after a long visit, or I finally got the car fixed"
or whatever and that's usually followed by "could you send me
those links again so I can get started." And then the next week
they say the same thing or sometimes they disappear for awhile
and then I'll call them or they'll give me a call and we start over
Working with these people is a bit like looking into a mirror. I
hear and see myself in what they are saying...I've been there many times.
The thing about decisions is that by definition they cut off options.
They are bridge burners...you can't go in two directions at once, not
really and not for long. So there is a cost to decisions...anyone who
has ever taken an economics course knows this is called opportunity
Decision means a lost opportunity. If you decide to move you
have to say goodbye to old friends. If you switch companies
you have to be willing to put up with the people who ask you why, and
you have to learn about new products and new procedures.
Of course the opportunity cost of not deciding can be the failure Hill
tells us about. We may experience that as lost income or being broke.
It could look like friendships we don't enjoy because we never meet
new people. Or maybe we experience being stuck in a dead end
situation of any kind. Long term it is dying with our music still in us.
Consider this as well. We learn by making mistakes. When we hold
back because we can't or won't decide, it takes longer to make the
mistakes and longer to make the course corrections that will get us
where we want to go. The whole process slows down and seems
slow and boring, like trudging through heavy snow or being stuck in
a big pool of molasses. This could be enough to make us quit...which
is often what happens.
Sometimes we make decisions by default. We quit a job by creating
situations like over sleeping and getting fired or forgetting important
appointments and losing a big sale or losing a friend.
The alternative is to make decisions quickly with intention and stick
with them knowing that by moving forward and taking action we are
speeding the process and arriving quickly at our goals full of enthusiasm
energy and excitement.
Celeste Smucker, Nellysford, VA