Kristen Burnett Fairhope, Alabama, United States
"If you are influenced by the opinions of others, you will have no DESIRE of your own. Keep your own counsel, when you begin to put into practice the principles described here, by reaching your own decisions and following them. Take no one into your confidence, EXCEPT the members of your "Master Mind" group, and be very sure in your selection of this group, that you choose ONLY those who will be in COMPLETE SYMPATHY AND HARMONY WITH YOUR PURPOSE."
This massively spoke to me because so many times I have been "sidetracked" or completely put off many of my goals by disclosing my aim and purpose to someone. In addition to an unsupportive and negative mother, as a child and teen I also had some friends who I didn't know were actually hoping to see me fail, so they felt better about themselves. I always wondered why it always seemed that whenever I disclosed a huge dream to someone, it felt empty after that. It felt like I could no longer do it and it was such a let down to have uttered it to anyone. Those "opinions" from others are always at work. I can't believe it's taken me to this point in life to realize why every career path I wanted to choose and follow was never really seen all the way through; because someone picked it apart and I lost the motivation and wanted to come up with something else, and then keep it a secret. This chapter had some really powerful things to say about the company you keep. And not solely about your Master Mind group, but it also speaks to the kinds of friends you should have as well.
"...but you also disclose your PLANS and PURPOSES to people who will take great delight in defeating you, because they envy you". This is so powerful. For much of my adult life, when someone has been negative to me or even singled me out to hassle me, I've thought it was because I did something wrong. There's just too many people in the world trying to either steal someone else's light, or their ideas to pass them off as their own. I've realized over time that too many people see something good in others and because they lack it, they want to destroy that quality in someone else.
I absolutely LOVE " tell the world what you intend to do, but first SHOW it". By keeping my dreams and ideas guarded and not really disclosing them to anyone except in prayer, I feel like I have accomplished more and I feel that I'm already on a higher path toward those goals than ever before because there's been no nay-saying or negative talk to associate them with.
I'm also learning that ANY definite decisions are good decisions and are valid. For instance, even if I haven't made the decision to do something particularly grand towards obtaining my goal, any definite decisions as baby steps are still huge progress made. When I decide to keep studying something that I have no idea how it will turn into a dream career, I'm still definitely deciding to persist despite the things still unknown. The "but there are people better at it than me", " how will I turn this into something", "what is my next step", "how do I make this happen", all fade out more and more when I focus on choosing the things I can do in the NOW.
Thank you so much to Michael and Linda Dlouhy for the guidance and for spending so much time helping me see my worth and helping me cut negative and toxic ties that hold me down and thank you to everyone in the MFF group who speak up to encourage me when I'm not sure of myself.
Kristen Burnett/ Fairhope, Alabama