Cheryl Stuhr Houston, TX, United States
Think and Grow Rich
How to Outwit the Six Ghosts of Fear
Fear. Boy, is that a loaded word. Loaded with a lot of negativity-enough that could literally kill a person. Napoleon listed six basic fears: poverty, criticism, ill health, loss of love of someone, old age, and death.
After reading this chapter, I reflected on what fears were influencing me and my life. At one point in my life I experienced all six at the same time. That really shut down any forward momentum I MAY have had before those certain situations happened. Now that I'm older, and I'd like to think, much wiser, several of those fears no longer rule my life.
At the tender age of 46, I had quit my postal job and had accepted an office position with another company. I leased my home out and moved into my mom's home to take care of her because she was in ill health, and I had to have emergency open heart surgery (the day before I was to start the new job).
But now I would have to say that the fears that are keeping me from moving forward are; poverty, criticism, and to some extent, ill health. I stopped fearing death a long time ago-knowing it is just a fact of life; we were only meant to be in our physical forms on a temporary basis anyway. Old age-again that is inevitable; it's how you look at the number and react to it that makes you old. Loss of love of someone-at this time in my life, not a problem.
But ever since I could no longer work a full time job, the fear of poverty took hold of me and still haunts me. I think that it has paralyzed me from really putting the necessary time and effort in to becoming financially independent. I've experienced poverty for so long that it's easy to stay where it's comfortable, even if I struggle at the end of the month.
Fear of criticism. I am concerned of what people will say or think of me if they knew the truth that the only money coming in each month is a social security check of less than $2,000 and a little Uber money. I have been in several MLM's thinking that this will be the one which will take me out of poverty-only I think I'm so comfortable with poverty that I don't do anything productive with the business. I talk as if I'm doing well because I need to see myself as wealthy (to believe is to achieve) and so most people who know me think that I'm financially comfortable. Not even my biological family know how I'm living.
I can talk and see myself as wealthy, but the belief isn't complete. Doubt creeps in, which makes things stay the same.
Ill health-I said “to some extent” because every so often something might flair up and I wonder what's going to happen. Example, a bug bit me under my eye about 2 months ago and every so often the redness will flair up and I will sometimes think “is this going to effect my vision?' But the thought are not all consuming. So even though I do have a few physical challenges, I don't dwell on them.
And just a humorous side note to ill health. Back in the day when I was working at the post office, I called in sick one night, siting I had a bad case of “ennui”, which is just another word for laziness or sluggishness.
Cheryl from Houston