I’m just a loser. I can’t do anything right. I should have just stayed in bed today, the day has already started off wrong. I can tell already that this is going to be one of those days. I’m just stupid. I just wasn’t cut out to be (fill in the blank) What’s up with all that? Well it’s just an example of self talk or auto-suggestion as Hill refers to it.
But that’s negativity you say. Yes it is but it’s still self talk and it’s insidious because we aren’t aware of what we are saying most of the time. AND it’s so easy because we don’t even have to work at it, that’s the default mode. And it’s already emotionalized because we are usually frustrated or angry at the time the words are spoken. And in the past I have sure been guilty of doing it. Starting the day off with one little negative scenario and then watching as the rest of the day tanks.
I had a chance for that to happen this morning. I got over to Mobile to do my Uber and Lyft rides and decided I would go get gas first since it’s 15 cents a gallon cheaper there. Pulled into a station and they had it set up where you couldn’t slide your card in and fill up, you had to go inside. The cashier tells me I have to prepay and how much do I want. I said I want to fill up and she says I have to tell her the exact amount I want. I told her to nevermind, I’d just go on down the road. I get to the next station and pushed the wrong button giving me the no corn product ending up costing me 50 cents more per gallon and I feel myself getting a little aggravated.
The first thing I noticed is the awareness of those kind of thoughts creeping in. I have found two things that help me in those situations. 1. Being aware of my thoughts and 2. Making a choice to quickly change them which I did. I started with my positive self talk. Today is going to be a great day. I am going to start looking closer at the buttons next time. I just have to laugh at that one. I am so glad I am not at a J.O.B. anymore…and just like that my day changed. I got to pick up a future nurse from Dallas going to take her test at the University there and had a great conversation with her. I picked up a man that had colo-rectal and brain cancer. Her told me his wife didn’t want him out driving being so weak so he called Uber. I told him I knew a little about cancer myself and would be praying for him. Then I picked up a 22 year old who cooked at the Waffle House and listened as he told me about going to school but really wanting to be an entrepreneur and successful more than anything. I told him that I had a free program that could help him and left him my card.
It’s been a great day so far all because I CHOSE it to be and practiced my positive self talk. Now one more thing after reading Michael’s lesson, the importance of concentration. I have known how important that is for some time but have I practiced it? NO, and why not? Seems like this is the hardest thing for me to do and I don’t know why. I get up and the day gets so busy I just don’t seem to have time for it. I have thought what can I do to change that and I am going to start penciling it in on the daytimer and see if that works better. I know it’s a crucial part of the formula.
Thank you, thank you, thank you Linda and Michael Dlouhy for blessing us with your wisdom and thanks to all my mastermind friends and partners for sharing your brilliance with me.