Mervyn Drury Casey, Australian Capital Territory, Australia
Chapter 15 How to Outwit the Six Ghosts of Fear
HOW TO OUTWIT THE SIX GHOSTS OF FEAR
“Remember fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind” Dale Carnegie
All my life I have battled with one or more of the six major fears, but the greatest of these has always been the Fear of “Ridicule”. This, in turn, brought about the Fear of talking to people and starting a conversation with a stranger. It has taken a few years to master these two Fears and in the main, this has been due to the participation in this Forum over the past five years. These days I am happy to start a conversation with anyone who I meet and has time.
Dale Carnegie’s quote above I believe sums up what Fear is and where it resides. Our early childhood and the things our immediate family and associates tell us, “like don’t talk to strangers”, begins, in my opinion, the start of not asking questions and the Fear of starting a conversation. The first stage in overcoming Fear is to confront it head-on. This I have found makes the Fear go away.
I was once involved in an accident whilst rowing training. The rowing eight of which I was part of sank and whilst we had been told if this happened to remember that the boat will stay buoyant and to stay in it until rescued. Unfortunately one of the boys jumped into the water and subsequently drowned. As soon as possible after the incident, we were placed back into a boat and taken for a row. It overcame our Fear of ever again of the rowing eight becoming waterlogged.
“If you want to conquer fear, don't sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” Dale Carnegie.
Another Fear is the Fear of Success. Here we do not take action for Fear that we might succeed and achieve our goal, so we do nothing or find excuses not to do an action, like delivering flyers, because it might bring us prospective clients or allow us to deliver a presentation. Dale Carnegie’s quote above is how to beat this Ghost of Fear.
Casey, Australian Capital Territory, Australia.