Johnny Ray Cabuyao, Laguna, Philippines
Just being real, sometimes I haven’t the slightest clue what to say when I put my lesson together, however, I love doing them, as it forces me to have focused organized thinking.
I had a very DEFINITE PURPOSE in indulging my imagination through these nightly meetings. My purpose was to rebuild my own character so it would represent a composite of the characters of my imaginary counselors. Realizing, as I did, early in life, that I had to overcome the handicap of birth in an environment of ignorance and superstition, I deliberately assigned myself the task of voluntary rebirth through the method here described.
I like how Hill talks about rebuilding his character. Focusing on Emotional Intelligence, redefining ourselves by controlling our emotions and psychology has done me well over recent years.
Prior to rehab, and for the first year and a half into my sobriety, my emotions had the greater control of me, and there was moments where that would “flair up” even after that, however, I was rebuilding my character through self study and evaluation and I just would decide to “stop it” on behavior that wasn’t serving me well. What was actually pretty cool, I was studying all the components of Emotional Intelligence but didn’t learn of EQ (emotional intelligence) until the begging of this year.
Emotional Intelligence is the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.
What this does illustrate is that Desire and a definite purpose do work. My desire was to have a better personal character, my desire was to not be reactive to hurtful people, but to respond “in an adult manner” and not like a reactive child. To be firm, stern, and steady in hostile situations was not my strong point in 2011. I’m not fully there today, however, I am a completely different person 7 years later. I would say that seeking imaginary council from the likes of Brene Brown, from Charles Duhigg, from others who are said to be experts in the field of psychology, not every night as Hill had done, but I have imagined conversations with them, as well as Les Brown and Tony Robbins, and I have better clarity afterwards.
I think that is the goal in mind, tapping into a clarity that’s above our own in order to reach a desired goal.
Something I’ve stated for many years: A person’s perception is that person’s reality.
If they believe that an orange is an apple, then that’s their reality. I don’t know it really matters in changing their mind unless they’re making an apple pie. It’d probably be easier to just convince them to make an orange pie, instead. Their reality, whether we deem it right or not, is their reality. We can influence it, however it is up to them to go about changing it, should they desire.
It was the consequences to my poor behavior that created the desire within me to create a change. My perception was that I needed to have a change.
I appreciate this group for providing a medium to create an even deeper change that will develop into a legacy. Thanks Bob and Michael and the rest in the group.
Reminder: When you’re in hell, that’s not the time to stop and smell the roses.