James Lombard Dublin, Leinster, Ireland
“The world has the habit of making room for the man whose words and actions show that he knows where he is going.”
Definiteness of purpose does indeed lead to self-confidence in planning, action and results. However, so many people are tormented and hobbled by fears which exist because of negative programming from childhood. Even though they may have discovered their primary purpose in life, fears inherited from childhood make them hesitant and distrustful of their own powers, leading to slowness in making decisions.
“Thousands of men and women carry inferiority complexes with them all through life, because some well-meaning but ignorant person destroyed their confidence through opinion or ridicule.” “Get a good education and, afterwards, a good pensionable job in the civil service”, was the usual advice to young people during my youth. Another oft-quoted saying was “Young people should be seen and not heard, so listen to your elders, the people with experience.” Of course, this mindset stifled original thought, initiative and, most importantly, self-confidence. It made us wary of making mistakes and fearful of the consequent ridicule.
The first step to freedom from mental fear is to reprogram one’s mind by using positive affirmations based on one’s life’s purpose and, by reciting them many times daily, make them so dominant that they erase the negative influences of the past. Reading one’s purpose and reciting affirmations should be part of one’s routine especially morning and bedtime. Reciting them mindlessly without full focus is, I believe, useless. You have to concentrate on the meaning, and visualize the new ‘you’ achieving its desires.
Discovery of and belief in the new self will inevitably lead to promptness and decisiveness of action.
Regards and best wishes to all.
James Lombard, Dublin, Ireland.