James Lombard Dublin, Leinster, Ireland
“The value of decisions depends on the courage required to render them.”
To conquer self requires a lot of courage and persistence. Plato said: “The first and best victory is to conquer self. To be conquered by self is, of all things, the most vile.” In order to do this, you need to know your weaknesses and your strengths and be able to convert each of your weaknesses into a corresponding strength.
One’s weaknesses usually depend upon one’s innate temperament. One of the main traits that afflict us Greens is the tendency to be serious and gloomy. No one wants to listen to me cataloguing my disappointments. When forming relationships in network marketing, all my prospect wants to know is; "can I be successful and can you help me?" So, I must choose to be cheerful and optimistic and always expect positive outcomes.
We, Greens, also have a tendency to be so introverted that we take everything personally. A casual comment by a Blue doesn’t mean he is out to get you: unlike Greens, Blues do not usually prepare comments before delivering them. To avoid this habit, I will keep my thoughts positive and refuse to entertain negatives.
When I hear my name being mentioned, I refuse to assume I am being mentioned in a critical light. Greens can also fear being put upon. If you fear being put upon, that fear will become your reality. Therefore, I will not entertain such a fear and always expect the best from others.
We, Greens, usually have a poor self-image. My job then is to locate the source of that low self-esteem, which usually goes back to treatment in the past by family and authority figures, like teachers and religious ministers, and to eradicate it.
Another weakness is the habit of not taking action until everything seems perfect. A simple task like clearing out a shed can cause a Green to overcomplicate the task. Greens find it difficult to decide what needs to be kept from what is just clutter that can be put in a skip. In a way, that last mentioned example is a metaphor for the clutter in the Green’s mind.
Last but by no means least, is the Green’s habit of making unrealistic demands on others. An example of this would be a Green mother expecting a Blue child to conform to her expectations of keeping everything in the living room in perfect order or, to always turn off the light in his bedroom.
How will I implement these decisions? I will faithfully say my self-talk daily and cultivate a cheerful optimistic outlook by refusing entry to negative thoughts into my mind. I will keep studying the different people I meet by listening, listening, listening. Lastly, I will take decisions that are true to my own nature but in a harmonious manner that respects other points of view.
Regards and best wishes to all.
James Lombard, Dublin, Ireland.