Rick Burnett Spanish Fort, Alabama, USA
“The majority of people, if asked what they fear most, would reply, “I fear nothing.” The reply would be inaccurate, because few people realize that they are bound, handicapped, whipped spiritually and physically through some form of fear. So subtle and deeply seated is the emotion of fear that one may go through life burdened with it, never recognizing its presence. Only a courageous analysis will disclose the presence of this universal enemy. When you begin such an analysis, search deeply into your character.” Napoleon Hill.
The I fear nothing is really nothing but denial because I know that each and every one of us has some form of fear in us and that is why we should spend a lot of time in courageous analysis as Hill suggests. Thats why even after I write this lesson I plan on continuing to go back to this chapter until I identify and root out every bit of it. None of us likes to admit we have it therefore the denial. When we say well I might have a little bit of fear in this or that area BUT…any time we insert that word but, it’s a form of denial. That’s where the courage comes in.
Yes, ill health and death and poverty and all of those things are in the back of my mind and the fear of losing my wife after finding out that her cancer is back and has metastasized to her spine scares me…but what really scares me is not dying but dying before I really start living or as Michael would say, dying with my music still in me. And what is holding me back from accomplishing that? The fear of criticism. Just one small part of my self talk goes It doesn’t matter what people think about me, the only thing that matters is what I think about myself and yet the deep seated fear seems to linger on. I heard that in the circus an elephant can be trained to stay in one spot by a little rope and a stake. A huge animal with enormous strength that can push over trees SO brainwashed that it is held back by a little rope and a stake that could be pulled out of the ground with one nod of it's head and it’s thoughts associated with those two images. The animal THINKS that it can’t leave that one spot it’s confined to.
As my mind searched my past during MY courageous analysis I remember when I would think about any career in selling of any nature that I might want to pursue my mom would make a statement like “ Well I just wouldn’t like to have things pushed on me” or “I just wouldn’t feel comfortable about doing that to someone else”. Now I’m not saying anything bad about my mom, I love her with all my heart, I just realize that it was her past programming and she was not conscious that she was passing it on to me. But those statements and my mind accepting them as fact at the time has kept me confined to a spot like the thought, not the rope and stake had confined the elephant.
We have to be so very careful on what we say to our children and to anyone else that we come in contact with for that matter, words are so powerful. We have to build everyone in our paths up and not tear them down, it's our responsibility when talking to others to choose our words wisely.
As I read Eve's lesson I thought about the one seemingly harmless sentence her mother made about her being too skinny and how that affected her life. I see some of the things that my daughter's mother said to her that has affected her life in a traumatic way. I am helping a friend with his Christmas tree business for the next two or three weeks and observed his partner talking to his stepson and it was not pretty. His partner said to me, “ you haven’t met David yet have you?” I said no and then he proceeded to tell me that he was worthless and good for nothing. When he did show I could tell by his appearance and demeanor that the words that he had heard way too often had done their damage in him and it broke my heart.