Celeste Smucker Nellysford, VA, United States
Chapter 15 The Six Ghosts of Fear
You are as young as your self-confidence, as old as your fears;
as young as your hope, as old as your despair. ~ Samuel Ullman
Michael often says "Any excuse will do," when talking about why people quit or hold back from moving forward in life. And what happens to people who perpetually hold back from doing what they know they need or want to do? What they are here on earth to do? The stress of not expressing their true selves, of moving closer to death with "their music still in them," brings death even that much more quickly because the stress of denying who they are causes them to age pre-maturely.
Where does fear come in? What else is holding us back except our fears? Hill says doubt and indecision come into play...but he also says that "Indecision crystallizes into doubt, the two blend and become fear!" And the blending happens gradually, germinating and growing "without their presence being observed." Making them, he says, all that much more dangerous. But the bottom line is still fear, and fear exacts a big price...your life.
And this is in spite of the fact that in most cases, the fear is not real...it is an illusion, which is why Hill calls it a ghost. A ghost is something with no substance that haunts us nonetheless. And when we allow ourselves to be haunted by ghosts, our self-confidence suffers and we can easily fall into the state of despair and the lack of hope that the quote describes.
What are the things we fear. Maybe it is contacting people we don't know, or standing up for what we believe. Maybe it is speaking in public or starting a business, a real business that supports us.
Recently I shamelessly eavesdropped on a conversation two people were having. One individual was talking about their lack of success in their business and saying they were thinking about taking a job to make ends meet. The other person suggested that instead of doing that why doesn't he work his business like a job.
Perhaps if he did that, the friend suggested, he wouldn't need to look for employment. I don't know what was holding this person back, what he was afraid of, but the advice made sense. Instead of giving in to his fear and getting a nice safe job, why not get out of his comfort zone and work on his business full out. In other words, stop making excuses for being broke and treat the fear of poverty like the ghost it is and do what he came here to do.
When you live life with that kind of focus, with self-confidence, good humor and grace, you win no matter what. Even if he did decide to take a job for a short time, he could do so knowing it is part of a success strategy rather than a way to avoid what he fears.
Hill reminds us that "there can be no compromise between poverty and riches! The two roads that lead to poverty and riches travel in opposite directions." If you are on the poverty road, taking a job could mean you have given up hope, given in to despair. If you are on the riches road, taking the job can be a step along the way to success. It's all in your attitude.
As Anthony Mitchell says in every one of his posts " no matter what it may have looked like in the beginning, in the end I will live out my purpose." And he says that speaking as someone on the road to riches with a powerful why, a lot of faith and a commitment to outwit the ghosts of fear no matter what it looks like to anyone else.
Celeste Smucker, Nellysford, VA