Adam Rizk Calgary, Alberta, Canada
"The majority of people who fail to accumulate money sufficient for their needs, are, generally, easily influenced by the “opinions” of others. They permit the newspapers and the “gossiping” neighbors to do their “thinking” for them. “Opinions are the cheapest commodities on earth. Everyone has a flock of opinions ready to be wished upon anyone who will accept them. If you are influenced by “opinions” when you reach DECISIONS, you will not succeed in any undertaking, much less in that of transmuting YOUR OWN DESIRE into money. If you are influenced by the opinions of others, you will have no DESIRE of your own. Keep your own counsel, when you begin to put into practice the principles described here, by reaching your own decisions and following them. Take no one into your confidence, EXCEPT the members of your “Master Mind” group, and be very sure in your selection of this group, that you choose ONLY those who will be in COMPLETE SYMPATHY AND HARMONY WITH YOUR PURPOSE. Close friends and relatives, while not meaning to do so, often handicap one through “opinions” and sometimes through ridicule, which is meant to be humorous. Thousands of men and women carry inferiority complexes with them all through life, because some well-meaning, but ignorant person destroyed their confidence through “opinions” or ridicule. You have a brain and mind of your own. USE IT, and reach your own decisions. If you need facts or information from other people, to enable you to reach decisions, as you probably will in many instances; acquire these facts or secure the information you need quietly, without disclosing your purpose".
"Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you.
And though they are with you, they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
Which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite.
And He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hands be for happiness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
So He loves the bow that is stable".
This poem has held a firm belief in my heart as my own religion does. This articulate poem "Your Children" defines the family relationship of child(ren) & parents. The expectations that are taught to us as kids, but the roles we as kids should never be forced to have as our destiny. I remember at each age of better understanding and maturity more decision making became part of life, a "morale rule" as my dad liked to call it because he needed to witness growth from right and wrong decisions. This was his way of starting us on the path of thinking for ourselves and independence. Dad still wanted us all to graduate High School, graduate College, and have a career 'we can be proud of'. Mom, was the same in finishing school and having a career, but early life was her way or the highway! Then mom lightened up a tad in our teens as she had seen our behaviors were better with dad then her and certainly she knew why all those past years because we (my 2 sisters & I) were pretty voicerferous of how dad let us live & learn. Mom and dad divorced when myself and sisters were; 7, 4, & 2.years old.
Dad was against drinking, drugs, pre-marital sex, disrespecting another person; basically, any immoral thing said and or done would impose a 'jail sentence' of groundings being the 'conviction' when we did not uphold ourselves with integrity. Mom was quick with a wooden spoon, her hand, her up in our face attitude yelling at the top of her lungs half of the time, the other half would be blank cold stares, sending us back to dad's place & so forth. While dad reasoned and supported us in our endeavors, he had been paralyzed by procrastination/fear/indecisiveness as I witnessed: he had stock traded starting in penny stocks, and dropped it within a year (this was before internet ruled the world); when his and an uncle's computer business was not doing well, he thought long & hard about a job as a Computer Programmer that would start at $100k/yr due to his experience and skillset; needless to say he stuck it out with uncle. After uncle divorced auntie (dad's sister) auntie got the business in divorce settlement due to her capital investments and book keeping, and dad stayed a few more years making less money each year in the tightness that the computer market had become, and by this time all 3 of us were adults. A few years before Lou Gehrig's disease took over his body, dad took a job in Computer Sales & Account Management. Thanking God everyday that my dad is in the 1% group who have lived past 10+ years with Lou Gehrig's
Mom has had a cleaning company of her own for 10 years steady, as Jasmin (my deceased sister) set it up and enjoyed it with mom for 4 years. In 2000 Jasmin (at 17 yrs old) & mom started one and it lasted a year because mom & stepdad had a substance abuse problem.I witnessed mom dropping out of English school 3 times in my life, and one of those times she was being paid from income support to go to school. Everytime; "I can't learn at these levels the school keeps pushing me to"; "too hard", so she'd quit and that was it! Also, mom had money back before her & dad had us, and dad was taking me to a soccer game and there was this land development happening for a new suburb of my city (Calgary); quickly before passing it dad says:" your mom had 10k she should've put down in agreement with a good friend of ours who bought this land, as for me, I had just arrived from Egypt a year earlier so I pressed believing in it because you could see encroachment coming and the friend and I sat in on community engagement proceedings sometimes, but she always declined! And I just heard through mutual friends that our friend's family in held the bequeathment to 2 years ago and sold it to Qualico Developments for 25.5 million dollars. Dad wished his friend could've seen that! Like the cliché statement: "charity starts at home", so does the way we learn to live
As for me, I joined a few MLM's before I was 21, and at 21 I had received Provincial government help ( Province of Alberta,Canada) seeking out to find or not if I had a learning disability. The Chartered Psychologist (Anne) spent a year with me and diagnosed that I did have a "process of information" learning disability, and that this came from absolute complex materials such as studying chemistry because I would need to be repetitious to successfully understand and apply what was learned. Though, I scored better most times, on each exam, the examinations and talk therapy proved why I had been an "up and down" student throughout my grade school years. It also, made me realize through our time together that I am a visual, logical and physical learner that outweighs the others. I did quit my application to major in Law with a minor in Conflict Resolution Studies. I no longer was under duress of how bad I did in school, I quit so I would not be a fill in for the dreams my parents have me becoming. I decided to go to work taking a retail job, moving out of home to find my own way, although, at first it wasn't a cake walk. I toughed it out working a job I was beginning to loath for 6 years, and in that time frame I applied into Sociology, but soon after I realized there really isn't going to be a career in it; as it was just as bad as Philosophy, so done &cancelled! Also, in this time frame I completed Acting School at Company Of Rogues Studio, but it was time to apply for a job that would pay me $17-20 per hour so I could afford to finish Performing Arts in Theater, TV, and film studies at Rocky Mountain College. Construction was my answer. Drywaller & Steel Framer Assistant. From this position I lept in status & pay to Inventory Control Coordinator on site, and while I had that position I studied Occupational Health & Safety hands on from our Safety Officer (Donna) and through a Provincial Association: Alberta Construction Safety Association. By 2010 I had a diploma from Rocky Mountain and Certification as an OHS Officer. I Worked as a Safety Officer for a year for a former Foreman with the Drywalling & Framing co. that I started with. Vince is this dude, who for me was instrumental in promoting me because he had confidence in me every step of the way, so to this day we're still great friends! My sister Jasmin died in 2011, and Vince let me have my own schedule even as I told him that I would like to be fully free. Later we sat down and he knew that I had a 4 yr old nephew and 2 yr old niece + a 2 week old baby nephew to be taken care of as my only concern to do just that in helping out my brother in-law. Today all kids are growing up faster than I can recall my times growing up! Life goes on, so teaching, supporting, even disciplining them to become decisive and productive into their own is my end goal!!