Think & Grow Rich Lessons
Tony Koker Stoughton, MA, United States

Posted: 2016-07-10

I Don't Own That - Do You?

It is Not Me. It is Only a Part of Me.

   As part of my journey in health and wellness solutions, I'm involved with people who have challenges physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. Wait a minute. That includes me (and you). I know there are physical, emotional, spiritual or mental areas in all of our lives, where we can improve, even if we don't identify with any particularly limiting challenge. I've also found that there are universal rules. They're universal in that they are always true, and always apply. I consider this part of my current wisdom. Although, it is a compilation of experiences I have shared with other people. People who took the time to share their wisdom with me.

   Before I dive into what I want to relate, I want to emphasize that I do not minimalize or belittle anyone's challenge. Until we walk in another's shoes we do not begin to understand the level of patience and strength that is needed, or the amount of energy that is needed and for how long. I am only trying to light the path. You must undertake to actually walk your own journey and seek and obtain the resources necessary to aid in your success.

   One of the universal rules I believe is one of balance. Everything must maintain a form of balance. If a system becomes unbalanced, either it adjusts, to compensate, or a larger containing system will provide another external system to balance the overall situaion. Many of these systems are not static and unchanging, but are in a constant state of change, often called a pendulum, swinging back and forth.

   When someone is challenged, in one or more ways, physically, emotionally or mentally, the other systems can often operate at a higher level to compensate. The key, here, is that all of these systems must operate in balance.

   These ideas, or specialized knowledge and wisdom form the basis for many successful therapies and cures.

   The mind is the single point where all of the human systems come together. If we decide that we are to become our challenge, that our challenge is us - we identify with it alone, and it is all consuming, then it will become so. If we are physically challenged and allow ourselves to become the challenge, we will ignore the heightened other abilities we now possess. The same is true for emotional, spiritual or mental challenges, too.

   A good friend of mine was diagnosed with prostate cancer. When his doctor told him this, in keeping with the mindset to which I write, he dismissed the doctor's diagnosis. The doctor had said, "You have prostate cancer". My friend was not in denial. He wasn't saying that there wasn't a cancerous growth. Instead, he replied "My prostate has cancer. Not me". This may seem like a fine distinction to some. But, it is the basis of a holistic system approach to balanced health and wellness.

   If we identify with and hence become our challenge, it will be allowed to consume us. If we isolate and contain it, we will wage a battle, or even a war, if need be, until we are victorious. Only the challenge will be overcome and we, the whole, will survive and endure.

with gratitude and in service,

Tony Koker